Hey there! So, you’re heading to Vietnam? That’s awesome – our little country’s got so much to offer, from crazy good food to warm smiles everywhere. But here’s the thing: we’ve got some unwritten rules that might catch you off guard if you’re not in the know. Don’t worry, though – I’ve got your back! These aren’t your typical “don’t wear shorts to temples” tips (though, yeah, that’s true too). These are straight-from-the-locals dos and don’ts in Vietnam to help you vibe with us like a friend, not just a tourist. Let’s dive in!
Lesser-Known Dos in Vietnam
- Say “Dạ” to Elders (Even If You’re Clueless) – When an auntie or uncle chats you up, just nod and say “Dạ” (yah)—it’s a polite “yes.” Didn’t catch what they said? Doesn’t matter; they’ll love the respect.
- Accept Invites (Even If You’re Not Going) – Someone invites you over? Don’t just say no—that’s a bit cold. A chill “Maybe next time” keeps it nice and friendly.
- Tap Your Glass Low When Cheers-ing Elders – Here’s a pro move: When clinking glasses with elders, tap your glass slightly lower than theirs. It’s a subtle power move that shows respect and cultural awareness. Trust us—people notice these things!
- Spoon Your Rice in the South – Down south, we scoop rice with a spoon—chopsticks are for the sides. Up north, it’s chopsticks all the way. Either’s cool—just vibe with the locals.
- Dive Into Family-Style Meals – No waiting around for someone to dish it out – grab some fish or veggies yourself! That’s how we do it at home, all lively and together.
- Offer to Pay (Even If They Won’t Let You) – Hosts usually grab the bill, but offer to split or cover it anyway. They’ll say no, but they’ll appreciate the gesture.
- Ditch the Sunglasses with Elders – Chatting with an older person? Pop off those shades. Eye contact’s big for respect, especially in traditional spots.
- Honor Sacred Spots – Temples and pagodas aren’t just pretty—they’re sacred. Follow the rules, hush up, and feel calm. When in doubt, watch what locals do.
- Hand Stuff Over with Both Hands – Giving or taking something? Use both hands—it’s polite and shows you’re present. Even for small stuff like cash.
- Say Yes to Rural Hospitality – Countryside folks might invite you for tea or rice. If you’re up for it, go—it’s the purest slice of Vietnam.
- Grab a Ride with Tech Apps (Xanh SM Shines!) – Skip shady street taxis—use ride-hailing apps! They’re cheap, safe, and quick, like Grab for dodging traffic. But check out Xanh SM—Vietnam’s new electric ride, eco-cool and a local fave. You’ll love it in the chaos of the city!
- Learn a Phrase or Two – Try “Xin chào” (hello) or “Cảm ơn” (thank you)—nothing fancy, but locals light up when you give it a shot.
- Wait for Elders at Fancy Meals – Big family dinner? Let the oldest dig in first—it’s tradition.
- Bring a Tiny Gift If Invited Home – Got a home invite? Grab some fruit or candy—nothing big. It’s a sweet thank-you that fits right in.
- Wave Down a “Bánh Mì” Cart at Night – Late-night hunger? Flag a bánh mì cart—fresh bread, pate, and vibes after 9 PM. Locals live for it.
Lesser-Known Don’ts in Vietnam
- Don’t Waste Food at Someone’s House – Leaving food on your plate at someone’s house? Big no-no. Empty plates show appreciation, so pace yourself but finish up!
- Don’t Overdo “Cảm ơn” Casually – Saying “thank you” too much feels stiff. Say it for when it really counts —a smile’s enough day-to-day.
- Don’t Joke About the War – Vietnam’s history runs deep—our families gave so much to protect this land, and many veterans still carry those stories. If you’re curious about it, feel free to ask, but please keep it thoughtful and respectful.
- Keep Your Voice Chill in Public – Loud talking or arguing? Not our thing. Stay calm even if you’re annoyed—people notice.
- Don’t Tap Shoulders from Behind – Sneaking up and touching someone’s shoulder? Nope, it’s off-putting here, especially with strangers.
- Steer Clear of Politics – Vietnamese are really proud of our country and love our leaders—it’s deep, rooted in struggles and victories in the past. Politics isn’t just small talk here. Unless you can show the same respect we have for our nation and its guides, better to skip it—keep the peace and the smiles!
- Watch Your Space – Cities are hectic, but don’t crowd folks in line or at tables. A little room shows you get it.
- Mind Your Feet in Holy Places – Pointing feet at someone—especially monks or elders—is disrespectful. Tuck them under or keep them flat in temples if you can.
- Don’t Flash Big Bills at Stalls – Don’t expect street vendors to break your 500,000 đồng note. Carry small bills and make everyone’s life easier.
- Don’t Stick Chopsticks Upright in Rice – Looks like funeral incense—big faux pas. Lay them on the side of your bowl instead.
- Don’t Wear Shoes Inside Homes – Kick them off at the door—keeps things clean and cozy. Slippers might be ready for you inside!
- Don’t Expect Hugs as a Hello – We’re friendly, but hugging strangers isn’t our jam. A smile or nod’s all you need to kick things off.
- Don’t Sweat Late Schedules – Stuff might run late – buses, tours, you name it. Chill out; stressing won’t fix it. Grab a coffee instead!
Time to Shine Like a Local
There you have it – your cheat sheet to dodging awkward moments and blending in like a pro. Vietnam’s all about heart, so bring an open mind, and you’ll be one of us in no time. I can’t wait for you to try that bánh mì cart hustle or nail a “Dạ” with an auntie!
If you’re curious where to begin, our local day tours are packed with moments just like these.
